my Emotional Truth Movement

STRUGGLES & TROUBLES FROM THE HANDS OF OUR GOVERNMENT

I don't normally write bloggs on this area but it has my life to where i feel passionate...
I'm a mother of 3 beautiful children my eldest is now 21 but im going to share with you the most painful situation i have ever been through in the whole of my life, When i was 16 i met someone and before long we moved in together had a baby my 1st baby together what was supposed to be the most wonderful time in a girls life became a living nightmare for me, i was 16 and he was much older than me he was 22 at the time the way this man treated me was completely heart breaking i had lost a baby before because i got thrown down the stairs which he blamed on him drinking and losing control i trusted him again and even went to counselling sessions together to try and make a go of things for my son's sake i didn't want to bring him up alone but in the end after 3 long years of abuse and heart ache. i suffered so much abuse from this guy mentally and psychically for years, then when my son was a few months old social services got called because of him how he was which opened a big investigation i knew i had to leave him or loose my son and i wasn't willing to lose him so i left and moved back in with my mom. As his last words to me became my biggest flash back moment that has been carried with me ever since that if i leave him then he will take my boy away from me.
After all of the threats i had off social service telling me if i do not go back home to my mom and dads house i will lose my child they excepted this man to walk into their office take statements off him with lies and revenge out to hurt me they came and toke my 1st baby away Christmas eve!! yes our very Christmas together was spent separately i was totally broken felt like everything was taken away from me my son is my life, so i had to spent and bite my tongue going with times and schedules by only their terms only for over 12 months,  i attended every programme they suggested from parenting skills to family support i needed my boy back and wasn't ever going to give that in his my boy. I did get my boy back it did take me over a year to do this but i proved myself in the end and turned it around on him with the help of solicitors that he never is a loud to hurt any one us again he was not aloud within 5 miles of us after that point. Me and my son made a new life for ourselves it was always so hard from that point was being watched and the social service's even though i won my case in court they still checked on my son mostly at school when i wasn't present, as i have nothing to hide just made a bad mistake with trying to help someone. I received a few counselling sessions and had help from mom and dad constantly helping to take the load of me weekends they would take him out and have him over night. As my son was 9 and i had my daughter when i brought her home from hospital again social service visits to check the kids telling me they need to police check everyone involved with my children, i pretty much knew at this point they was never going to leave me alone i have been fighting them for so long won my case and still they would let me get on with my life..
My eldest is now 21 safe away from social service but oh my god it is an experience what we have both been through my son still remembers all what he went through and been always harrassed by social service it put that much of an impact on my son's life and effected him that much he totally messed up his education, but now since away from everyone and his aloud to live his life the way he wanted to his free and now in a full time job doing A levels in health & social care as a parent i could not be happier we got through it and out the other end but unfortunately my struggles with social services did not end there like it should of done.
a few years a go i was reunited to my soul mate my best friend i had and my 1st true love he came walking back into my life i have to say i have never ever felt this happy to share my life with anyone else, i knew in my heart i wanted to have a child with this man and to have a stable family something i had never experienced, my past caused trust issues so i had never completely trusted anyone since all this happened to me and trust me its been a few years...
All of my children were born early which involved them being rushed straight to the special  baby unit, With my last child i went into labour at 7 months so it was quite scary to say the least.
Everything was real good with him he progressed pretty quickly i was always with her only going home to sleep, he just over a month then we was aloud to bring him home..
I had not been home long before getting a visit from social service again coming around asking if they can check the temperatures on each room which of cause i allowed them to do again i had nothing to hide and warming each room up when the baby was in the rooms, before long they were doing visits again and checking my cupboards for food they have always tried to pin things on me they don't like me defiantly the same as me not liking them now after going through all of this i decided to go to uni and train and learn about these legalisation and i'm glad i did now as i did need this information after all this is my tool to fight back with and i do use the book.
This all started when we had to move house away from my support circle and away from my youngest child's school my daughter luckily remained at her school good job as she is coming up to her exams, I really was worried about my son because he had known most of his friends in his class when he was 3 his now 6 and i felt bad as i'am his parent i feel the pain for him.
The area they have moved us too would not be my choice for my children but we had reached a family financial crisis so we was left with no choice the area has not got a good reputation if its everything i have learnt from moving here. We have now been here for 3 months my son has been unrolled in the local school and we both very unhappy here we have had to start again and it has been pretty tough things are that bad we cannot even afford a cooker at the moment we are using a grill top to cook our food,  me and my partner are trying to run our own business but its so hard that people will not give us the chance.
My 6 year old cry's his heart out most mornings my partner takes him i cant do it as its to painful for me i would not leave him there, his so emotional the one morning he hid pretended to go in his class to dad the minute dad left he hid under the table. When we collected him that afternoon the teacher asked if anyone had brought him to school today like i would let my 6 year old walk to school on his own which i have seen myself around this area but it did shock us to be asked this.
My son quite regular tells me he doesn't like his new teachers because she shouts at him a lot and that his always hungry at school that they don't give him enough food. I received a call from the school nurse asking if i could go into school and give permission for him  to have a full medical well its for the health and well being of my son so of course i would allow it, the nurse completed her medical to the end of it with no health concerns weight is online everything is on the correct line it should be. The school then asked me if they was any help & support that my family needs he replied just a cooker and help filling in forms, the head teacher of the school replied oh there is charities that can help you with that oh great she asked what you like me to give you information yes he replies.
We have raised the concerns with the school but do not feel they are even listening to us they are judging us thinking we don't work coming up with what they think, the truth is we work from home and never stop our hours are all the time we are trying so hard to get our selves out of trouble the way we know how without benefits!!
Before long again social services knocking on my door the 1st time they came round they introduced them selves as family support workers saying they have raised concerns that been reported to them.
They told me straight away that it was the school that had phoned the safe guarding team raising concerns involving my sons well being the emotional  state that the school had witnessed. No mention of us saying we only need help getting a cooker just judging how they have seen us since we have moved, before they left they had told my partner that they do have to come back to speak to me the mother, which they did about 2 weeks later.
Another family worker so they called them selves came round to my house with another complaint that that week the 1st day back after the half term it was i can remember the day my son again had to be taken to school total emotional had to be left with the school completely heart broken he begs to stay at home with mom and dad and for us to not send him there.. I was quite angry that she was there accusing me when i did try to reach out for help on so many occasions but got totally ignored, we was in need of help and support but now 3 months down the line we are picking these up slowly and moving forwards putting the last few months behind us yes its been hard as a family, after telling the family worker this as she asked do i need any help or support i replied i did but not now no she brought the cooker up finally i replied yes that is what we need help with. She then said ok if i can have both signatures off both parents me knowing what social service's are really about and how sneaky they are when they get this permission from parents the literally take most of your rights away this needs to get to the world. As they do not know this my life changed 3 years ago i became and followed the spiritual path through a traumatic awakening i'm deferent to how i was at 18 with that attitude i will fight back for my rights and beliefs, with the law on my side i'm innocent...
She asked me over 5 times to sign the paper she was very eager to get me sign the paper i wont sign any social services documents ever again. i replied how about you leave that document you want me to sign for my solicitor to go over it 1st and check what all this means, she wouldn't leave the document, she went saying she needs to go back to her manager because i will not sign the paper which means she can not help or offer support without my signature for them to talk to my doctor and my sons doctor and she will ring me with what she has decided.
She did ring the next day asking me will i sign it i said no but what i did explain to her that i had seeked legal advice and they are asking to see this document before signing anything with you, she brought this up over the phone when i asked her what are the complaints what do they say what are you accusing me of, she said well i dont no as you wont give me permission to speak to the school so i asked well why are you visiting me if you dont no any complaints that have been made, this lady is not being truthful with me, now accusing me of having a mental health issue with a question mark because i wont sign the paper, She then said  my manager has said we cannot help you if you do not sign the paper then she said we you work with me and give me that signature honestly surely this is being forced to sign isn't it?
i replied send me the document my solicitor would like to access it read it and legally check it and to be present on your next visit.. Now she has left it as its a Friday and the manager was on holiday she will get her to ring me on Monday what for??
We then went in to see the headteacher of the school to try and get some answers from them as we have had no contact from the school at all and i thought they had to contact a legal guardian of the child 1st if there was a concern then if no contact then contact other organisations but no straight to safe guarding.
Her attitude was awful she wouldn't even look at us i asked why didn't you contact me we had a concern my partner explained we have been trying hard to change this and the last few days all we have done is spend time on the phone chasing up the mess you've made you have made a mistake her judging us because we are now living in the area, if my choice i would never choose that school but to avoid any social services like they do when your child isn't at school they blame the parents i had no choice at all.. So now they want to invade my life completely again speaking to doctors my son has passed his medicals now they are picking on me and mine.. I no something is going to come from this but i am going to stay firm as i hear fight for my rights so i guess this is going to be yet another fight from our rights as a family as a human being to not be treated like this...
Iam reaching out to anyone for support spiritually from my soul family please do not let them tear my family apart again help me to help my son to be happy with education again please :)
I'AM SO SORRY TO ANYONE ELSE WHO HAS SUFFERED ALL THIS UNNECESSARY  SITUATION FOR YOUR FAMILY IM GOING TO TRY AND PUT A STOP TO IT MARCH WITH ME IN LOVE & PEACE AGAINST OUR WICKED GOVERNMENT!!!!

God bless you all i love you all
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Thanks for reading sorry i did have to share this with you